Define Yourself or Someone Else Will...

 And chances are, you won't be happy with the outcome.  

Every moment, you are defining yourself.  Whether you are aware of it, or not--notice what you are doing and add this phrase "I am a person who..." and don't sugarcoat it!  

Don't judge yourself. That's not what this is about.  EVALUATE your actions, decide if they are who you want to be, and then continue doing them, or do something differently, and move on.

We can all think of unpleasant, embarrassing ways to complete that sentence.  ( I am a person who gets up at midnight and eats a cheese sandwich)That's part of being human; however, if it is change you are looking for, then a clear look at yourself is the first  requirement. 

Define yourself, or someone else, less interested in your welfare, will define you.

Who's the Boss of You?

After working with young people for 20 years, inside the classroom and out, I have learned a basic human truth.

We all have the innate drive to 'captain our ship' (I borrowed that from a poem and a recent interview I watched on bulletproof.com). Whether or not we confess to it, or even realize it ourselves, we humans have an internal mantra:

Who is the ONLY person that is going to tell me to JUMP? ME

And how high am I going to jump? EXACTLY AS HIGH AS I WANT!

And who is going to stop me? NOBODY!!

In my humble opinion, this is the crux of all conflict. Period. More on this later, as it unfolds in my brain.

Thanks for reading.  :)